Thought distortions. Writers can’t really help it—we live in our heads and talk to ourselves all day. And a lot of what we say to ourselves are a lifetime of internalized messages from our family, friends, and society.
Our thoughts get twisted or are just plain wrong—distorted. And they can really do a job on our ability to work and grow as a writer. I know I’ve engaged in a few harmful thoughts this week. Do any of these messages sound familiar?
All-Or-Nothing Thinking
Everything is in one of two possible categories. For example,
If my story isn’t perfect, then I suck and should quit.
All writers. Everywhere.
Mind Reading
We somehow know what other people think. I most often mind read when I assume people hated my story if they don’t make a point to speak to me about it.
Unhelpful Rules
We set up certain conditions that we must fulfilled no matter what. For some personality types (like me) these can get a bit obsessive. Daily (or whatever) word counts, book sale targets, and number of social media followers are examples. Routines and goals are often useful but stressing slavishly over them is not.
Delusional Thinking
In the delusional thinking thought distortion, we convince ourselves that something is true to explain a decision or shield ourselves from the truth.
The ten beta readers that couldn’t follow the story’s plot were obviously not paying attention as they read my book.
Kathy L. Brown, megalomaniac
Exaggerated Thinking
This is a kind of all-or-nothing thinking, when we blow up the importance of a situation. We send a query letter, then find a spelling error. “That’s it, I’m ruined. This agent will never consider my book.”
All these thought distortions get in the writer’s way. If you think of any others, comment on the blog!
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